Why stress really is no good for us

Ok, we all get stressed at times….so whats the deal?  Well, while the occasional bout of stress will have no long term effect, people that seem to get in a pattern of regular stress are really doing their bodies no favours.

So just what happens when we get stressed?

The moment we become stressed …  the hypothalamus is triggered which then communicates with the pituitary gland.  In turn this  communicates with the adrenal glands making them produce stress hormones like cortisol and epinephrine.  Once this has taken place the sympathetic nervous system is triggered…producing the fight or flight mechanism or the “stress response”.

As soon as we experience stress our bodies go into this mode and it can not distinguish between the real threat of danger or emotional reactions, (which most stress is).  So regardless of whether your being attacked by a tiger, going through a divorce or at your wits end over work, it all triggers the same response.

So I can hear you thinking, yes…and what does it matter?  Well when the sympathetic nervous system has been triggered, your internal energy system is shifted away from self repair.  Mechanisms such as the inflammatory response, cellular repair and the immune system are turned off as these are not needed at the time of “fight or flight”.  Blood pressure is increased, heart rate is elevated, panic attacks and anxiety can kick in, adrenaline is increased to name but a few.  So when you are in a state of stress regularly your body becomes out of balance due to the response and you significantly increase your risk of many illnesses such as high blood pressure, strokes, heart attacks, diabetes, anxiety, poor sleep, the list can go on and on.

So how do we stop it?

The easiest thing for me to tell you would be to avoid or remove yourself from the situations that are making you become stressed to start with, but then that leads on to another technique completely.  Alternatively, you need to activate the parasympathetic nervous system which can stop the cycle of chronic stress.  One of the easiest ways to do this is through breathing exercises or simple meditation. Details of which can be found on my site http://www.formindbodyandsoul.co.uk/pages/articles/stress-busters.php

Like I said at the beginning, occasional bouts of stress are fine but when we are in a chronic cycle of stress, we need to listen to our body’s reactions and balance ourselves before illness can start to take hold.


Emotional to Physical

How the emotional state can have a huge impact on the physical one

How many people do you know that seem to be plagued, no matter how much treatment or physio they have with bad backs, necks, skin problems, sinusitis, migraines, digestive disorders, ongoing illnesses….the list is endless! I for one have known and do know quite a few.  Why do they never seem to make good progress?  Why do they make a recovery only to find 6 months down the line, wham, it reappears once more?  Quite simply because many physical problems have manifested from undealt emotions and we have to look at the body as a whole and therefore treat it as one.  Let me explain a little more……..

We all have mental thought patterns, opinions, beliefs and fears that come from learned behaviour.  As a baby we are completely neutral and know nothing but love.  But, as we grow, we learn all about the world and our opinions are shaped by our experiences during this time.  We store all of this information like a computer database does so it is always there, somewhere, even if its right at the very back.  Then, days,months or years down the line, something can happen which will, out of the blue trigger one of these stored memories to pop up, even if you are not consciously aware of it at that time.  OK I hear you saying, whats so wrong with this?  Well nothing if the emotions attached to these beliefs, memories and experiences are good happy loving ones that leave us feeling at ease.  But, if they are negative emotions that are attached and are allowed to keep a place in your database, then they can simply play havoc with you physically if they are not dealt with causing DIS-EASE within the body.  The term “metaphysical causation’s” simply means the power in words and thoughts that create our reality and experience. Take a look at just one of hundreds of examples below……

A child that grew up having never had the time to be listened to, told to be quiet, don’t be silly, wait your turn, don’t shout out, we’re not interested, not now are just a few statements that will have enabled that child to grow up believing that their opinion is not worth saying or nobody will be interested in what they have to say.  This then becomes part of their mental thought process (MTP) that is always there.  A situation then arises where they feel injustice or the need to speak out but can’t because this MTP prevents them from doing so.  From little niggles in relationships to problems at work this goes on and on through life.  Eventually, the mind cannot cope with this MTP anymore so to rid itself it manifests into a physical ailment…..yes you guessed it, the throat.  It could be recurrent laryngitis or tonsillitis to name but a few.

Another example…..

A case study regarding a lady with a chronic bad back that the doctors could find no medical reason for eventually realised that she had created this through her own MTP.  The story in brief was that she had not long since been retired when her daughter asked if she would look after her child so she could go back to work part time.  No problem, mum agreed and everything was fine.  A year or so later her hours were upped and mum starting having child all week. Then baby number 2 came along and yes, mum started having this one too.  Eventually she grew to resent this as there never came any thanks, dinner invitations etc whereby the in-laws were always invited out, holidays etc..  Her resentment grew but she feared if she said anything then her relationship with her daughter would be jeopardized.  This anger and resentment manifested in a bad back which got so bad that she couldn’t manage the children anymore so they went into a nursery.  After a while the bad back got steadily better but was still an issue so mum and daughter sat down to chat about care plans for the children.  Eventually, mum told the daughter how she felt and it was agreed they would stay at nursery.  Two months later mum’s bad back completely went and to this day it’s still fine.  I have shortened this greatly and it was through many sessions it worked out that this had been the trigger point for the emotion of resentment and anger and she needed to fully release them and also want to be free of this condition for it to be completely dealt with.

These are just two examples of how emotions can impact on us physically.  Very often we have little warning signs or symptoms and if we choose to ignore them then much bigger problems will manifest.

When we look a little deeper into ourselves the answer is almost always there if we choose to listen, giving us the opportunity to help our healing journey.  Reiki and Meditation are a great opportunity to allow ourselves the time and space to delve a little further and discover what really lies beneath.


Coincidences…..or something else?

Coincidences...ok I hear you saying….they happen all the time! But do coincidences really exist or are they events that happen to ensure we are on the right path at any given time? How many times have you encountered a “coincidence”? Think back and look at what happened at the time then what it led to. They are not mere accidents but universal signals that shift our awareness into allowing changes to happen.

Here’s a “coincidence” that happened to someone I know a few years ago who I will call Mary. Mary was really looking forward to meeting some friends for a birthday bash that evening. She had been on the road most of the day with work and decided to stop of at the next services to grab something to eat before she went home to get ready. Getting back into the car to drive home, she turned the engines several times but the car would not start, so she called for breakdown assistance. Mary took herself back inside the services to wait for the breakdown where, after a couple of coffees she was getting more frustrated at the prospect of being late for her evening out. After time, the breakdown called to say they were outside so Mary picked up her bag and and went to make her way out, bumping into a man at the exit that she vaguely recognised. As it turned out, this man was someone whom she worked with a few years back, but left to go to her current job, which, she was very unhappy in. To fast track a little now, her car could not be fixed and had to be towed to the garage making it near impossible to get to the birthday bash at a reasonable time. After chatting with the ex colleague, he made her aware of an opportunity in his company, which she took and 10 months later got promoted to the head of department. This meant more money so she was able to move from her flat into a house, where, she found a new boyfriend who lived just around the corner. They now live together and are incredibly happy, describing to others that they feel like soulmates.

So, was this meant to happen or was it just sheer “coincidence”? I’ll leave you to form your own judgement but this is just one of thousands of stories people have. In the end, we have to have have trust that we are always in the right place at the right time, whatever the circumstances.
“Coincidences are Gods way of remaining anonymous” Albert Einstein